I came out to all of my in real life friends and family that I had a blog pretty early on in the whole blogging process. I started my blog in April 2013 and I immediately told my sister, my mom, and my best friends. Obviously my husband the web developer who helped me put the whole thing together already knew, and Sophers has been a regular on All That Glitters for about a year now so it’s safe to say she knows Momma is a blogger;-) Those people were EASY to tell. They are my support system, they are there for me. All of the important people in my life knew…that was the easy part. I didn’t start posting anything about my blog on my personal Facebook until last August or so, because let’s be honest, I was scared. What was I scared of? Being judged, people talking, let’s just say I was scared of a whole bunch of people thinking I was really dumb.
I have over 1000 Facebook friends, but I could probably only list a couple hundred off the top of my head, maybe even just a hundred or so if we are being brutally honest. Now, do I ACTUALLY care what those 800 people that I can’t list actually think? Not in any way shape or form. To be honest, I should probably go weed through my friends on Facebook, but I’ll say what everyone is thinking: I like to stalk, so they’re staying:) Now, if you take away those 800 people, that leaves me with 200 or so that I actually KNOW. I don’t know why, but those 200 people, yeah…those are the people I was afraid of. It’s unfortunate that I feel this way, but I went to school with most of these people, I KNOW them and I know that they talk. They talk about their friends, they talk about their families, so of course they would talk about their acquaintances that used to be friends right? Maybe not, maybe I’m just giving myself too much credit here in thinking that ANYONE is talking about me, lol, but that was one of my fears in letting those 200 people know about my blog.
You see, I have found over the last 5 years, since graduating from college, that the people I used to be relatively close with are the ones that are the most judgmental and least supportive. Now, that’s not to say that there aren’t some really great people who have sent me messages, comments, liked Facebook pages and posts, etc. and for those people *you know who you are*, thank you. Thank you so much for being a supportive, wonderful person even if we were never that close. I have friends that were there for 4 years in college and then because of our differing opinions now no longer keep in contact with me. These people were once a HUGE part of my everyday life and not one of them has made any sort of hint that they know about this huge part of my life.
I guess part of the point of this long rambling post, is that you find out who your friends are when you grow up. The ones that actually matter and care will stay and the ones that don’t move on and that’s okay. Another big thing, and probably the most important one, is that we all need to be a lot less concerned about what other people think. I know, it’s really hard, but if we would all try to be a little bit more comfortable in our skin and care less about what others though, our lives would be so much happier! Always remember, “Those who mind don’t matter, and those who matter don’t mind.”
Now, onto something a little bit lighter: that announcement I promised you yesterday! I have been asked to be the fashion contributor for Jennifer’s blog over at Busy Being Jennifer and I am so excited, because today is my first post! Woo hoo! So, go ahead, click on over to Busy Being Jennifer for a how to post about styling that white dress you have during the fall season!